Bonding over happiness

In the name of modernization, our tech has changed drastically. From standing outside PCU for hours to make a phone call to power to make 10 calls simultaneously sitting right on our couch can truly be termed as revolution. From 1 / 1 million getting a chance to fly evening economy class to everyone flying at as low as INR 99 fares is sign that what considered luxury once has become a day to day affair for us .

These and many other changes like Bullet Train , Skyscraper to live , 2 minute meals to eat , World to roam around , 100 GB's of data to carry in pocket , starting revolution on click of button and many more . People have adapted and benefited from these changes over the years in very positive note. 

But few things which have never changes include the laziness and not caring for cleanliness. Although Keeping own house clean is number one priority but beyond the doorstep of our house, the rest of a world seems to be a garbage bin for which " GOD KNOWS WHO " is responsible to clean . The percentage of responsible citizen is very few compare to billions of others thinking it's Govt. responsibility to clear up the mess because they are public servant. 

Unfortunately such attitude has turned a amazing park near our society into a dumping ground of waste material. The Foul smell has attracted pigs, insects and it's difficult to pass across the road without putting a handkerchief on nose and mouth. Our Resident Welfare Association ( RWA ) have been putting request to local municipal body , MLA , MP and even local media to get this garbage cleaned up as it was potential hot bed for diseases . Even though few truck load of heap was cleared but it was far from over as more and more piles were coming up as even Waste building material, Hospital discharge and local restaurant leftover were also finding this park as their place to rest upon. 

Finally when cases of dengue started Appearing in our town and govt, issued advisory which clearly mentioned places which can be breeding ground then a sense of urgency appeared in mind of every parent . Immediate Meeting was called upon and we decided to take things in our hand and begin ”Cleanliness drive " right away .

Took almost 15 days to clear everything and dispose properly, 30 days to disinfect entire area and more 30 days to plant trees / grass in park .. Everyone worked and contributed , even taking guards at night to ensure no-one is again dumping anything at the place . Even have to call Police for assistant few times to fight with Builders and enacted local force to fine them every time. Dustbins were installed at every corners and daily collection was contracted. Nearby School / Hospitals /Office were sent circular to help us in this drive.

Now , People actually get out of their houses and to fill their lungs with clean air and this developed a sense of working together , connect neighbors , building trust and to raise voice to prevent crushing of nature earth . This surely inspired our new generation that world/life is not bad as they thing and humanity prevails and best companion of your life is mother earth.

No man made technology can do magic as nature can do and growing around them is the best thing that can happen to life.

Checkout this TVC by Kissan TVC by Kissan , where a bunch of seeds help connect people across and enjoy the miracle of organic growth .  #RealTogetherness. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFR-ruC43l4

Two poles of Mind

Many time we don't need someone to argue ... its our own mind which takes poles apart to start the discussion

there is a topic which is currently peeps up every time i am alone or aloof  which is " what to do next " . i am at a place where i am at age of 26 after a hell of qualification which people term is necessary enough to climb whichever ladder i want to ...still don;t able to set my priorities straight .

so the discussion begin with if i want peace of mind or i want material pleasure  ??? first stand  .. lets go back to home town to live back with papa . mummy with nephew - niece , with sisters and all other for whom i care .. may be back i can't please them with monetary gifts but i can be with them in small events .. sadness and happiness making all of them to part of my memory , cherish the pleasure to be with them becaz if i realize after 5-10 yr this point and then there will no-one who can have same bonding with me as they have in present ... may be then jodhpur will became same as what delhi is for me today ..........

But the counter points comes - hey monu  there are 15- 17 of your cousin who are there with family but see their living standard .. they are almost at same place where u left 4 yrs back .. there family seems unaffected by their presence ..they had become a part of the furniture out there . Also My Family had Expectation ... i want to buy them stuff which they missed to bring life to three of us ... my nephew and niece sees me as uncle who will bring loads of gift  .. they take me as ideal who is fighting against all odd , leaving far away from family and always made all the right decision .. and back home i will not able to provide the extra things which i always wanted for myself ....my parents made my life better then their own ... now its my duty to pass this leagcy to future chaps ..

And now its not about me .. its about us ...i known she has all good intentions ...she will be a good housewife ..but the fears of in-law make her scared of jodhpur ... I truly understand her point as making it with my mother is a big gamble and in case things don;t make up well , life of all will be hell .. somewhat what we encountered in last trip ...

Truly speaking , till time i was alone in delhi .. all pain - problems i tried to absorbed on my own ...Not transferring that to my family ... knowing that they are already dealing with many back there ... but now i am scared i want to give comfort to her and doesn't known the definition of Ideal Husband .. may be nobody trained or explained what is called a good husband is .. i am still like her old friend who can resolve her difficulty but now to fixer my role has become planner .. her life planner and that makes things scared what if my decision went wrong ?? .


Hope like always ... my mind comes up with a solution by gods grace just before the time i am about to  break .. i known i believed this for 26 year and this going to be continue ..thats why people call me Smart ... and i knw who is behind this smartness .... My gods blessing . 

New Year bash ....

After Marriage , this was our First New year celebration together  and 26th Year individually too ..... Me the Coup , she the apple ........starting 2 days went with loads of Hindi movie Masala ...... still with hopes with upcoming year will be better then all past 25 Christmas we had seen .

With 26th time promising with self that we will adhere to resolution ... although the criteria  changed from ANY job to BETTER job ... to getting married to getting settled ... from Two Wheeler to Shifting to a car .... from convincing parents to convincing parents-in-law ..

But i don't want to sound Pessimistic on 1st blog that i will procrastinate all these promises as i keep doing every year ...

First of the Promise I done with Mimu( My wife )  is change of job within 1st quarter of this year ... and keeping my fingers Crossed and  praying to God to Help me Attain the same .

Still whatever happen .. i will keep the attitude i learnt from Thakur ( My Father ) ............... " Itni tension na la ... Kuch bhi ho 17E/31( Address of my home )  hamesha khulla ha ..... u can always depend on Me " ......

And my resolution since 1985 ... ki ma papa ko bhi yahi vishwas dilwa saku ... ki " MAIN HU NA"

{ Post drafted since Dec 2014 but able to only publish now , don;t know what was holding me back }  .... 

Transition from Spinster to Married women!!

Me -Its so difficult to be a house wife for working lady,i wont quit the job ever..
She -Thts gd thought ,bt after having kids these feelings stop haunting u!
Me -Does having kids make lyf happier or again we go deep into responsibilities?
She-U enjoy that phase the most!!It is where u do what u wish..with a sense of more feelings!
Me -N forget all sorrows encountered,coz there is sm1 fr whom u r everything
She- Exactly,u are becoming more samajhdaar!
Me -Every girl must b having this same feeling..its so difficult !!B4 marriage a girl wishes n shares every small thng with her BF/Fiance bt the transition after marriage makes her feel that no other person in this universe can be d best except her siblings n mom to share all the ups n downs..
She -This is called"Blood relation" n the biggest truth of lyf!
Me -U never told me all these are true,i wd hv learnt it b4hand only...truly I'll nvr want my daughter to marry or if even it happens,i'll make her live lyk princess ,where she wd nvr hav to change hrself fr any1!
She -Ever1 is governed by his/her destiny n we must accept that ...........

A small conversation from one person who had same ups n downs after marriage as m getting to know frm mine!
Marriage - A word which rotates lyf by 360 degrees..wht u want,the way u dress,the way u present personally/professionally,ur lyk's ,dislyk's,feelings towards any 1 ...........all these changes.

Then y do we marry??A question haunting my mind n unable to get the ans?
Is it just the social stigma or just the physical needs that makes it an unavoidable ritual ??
It has been true fr evry1 ,evry girl,i suppose where the cultures are very different in the 2 families .Truly,i could nvr understand before, as to y pa-ma had wantd a mod family with huge openness fr both of us..I understand that today!
I wz taught to respect elders ,serve them in their bad times,i carried this sense of feeling only n will alwz maintain this...bt there r so many doubts on me n that also by the ppl who are world for me!

Ya,I hv many responsibilities,job is on one hand n family on another..I will not quit my job,coz i want some part ,some requirements of mine to be just mine..I dnt wnt to regret later ...as i did till few yrs back!

I do understand that old ppl will nvr change their thoughts,n the best practice that m doing from recent few dz is - Just listen n forget , bt still it is not easy as their thoughts ,vn go upon comparison with others ,it hurts evn vn u are tryng to do ur best!This is the moment when it sucks,as if i'm mad..No one can change their mentality & i need to follow this n make a rule of lyf that this sort of behavior is expected n i need to still maintain !!!

I know except my blood relations,no 1 can understand these feelings ,I will be wrong fr rest all evn if i do the best of my mixed responsibilities..I wnt thru' very bad phase in professional lyf since the beginning of this yr n after all odds,some positive thngs hv been kept in my lap ,i need to wrk out n make my transition at office successful ,but hav to deal with both transitions simultaneously..
Well hope all this will make me more stronger as m not gods fav child who will bestow all goodies for me in lyf!!

{ Based on a Conversation I had with a Newly married Women while travelling on a 48 hour journey }